When you’re trying to avoid being busted for having a hotdog eating disorder, the best way to avoid it is to be polite.
You can avoid being found out if you can’t even look away when the person with the hotdog says something stupid.
If you can, be polite and do what you want, says Dr. Robert J. Schaffer, the chief medical officer of the American Dietetic Association.
“The most important thing is to say, ‘No, I’m not interested,’ ” he says.
Schacher, who runs a clinic in Washington, D.C., has seen a lot of people come in with eating disorders who’ve tried to get help, but were rejected.
“You can be as charming as possible, you can be friendly, you have no idea how to behave,” he says, “but the reality is, they’ll get away with it because they’ve got a low self-esteem.”
So, for example, if you’ve got your dog eating a hot dog in front of a stranger, don’t give them a chance to say anything.
Instead, you should be a little more friendly, even if you don’t think they should.
“If the person is like, ‘Hey, do you want me to take your dog for a walk or do you have any other dogs I can take for a nice walk?’
And you’re like, I dunno, ‘Oh, cool, you want to go see them?’
That’s when you can take the dog and walk away, even though you’re really not interested,” Schaffer says.
“But if you do that, the dog might come back and you might see the person again later.
You’ll get them in a bad mood and start a fight.”
Be a good neighbor and not a rude neighbor It’s not unusual for people with eating problems to live in neighborhoods that are known for being violent, unsafe and unsafe for people of color, says Amy Crouch, executive director of the National Alliance on Mental Illness.
But Schaffer cautions against putting yourself in a situation where you feel like you have to be a good citizen and neighbor.
“People often feel that their own neighborhood is their own community, and they’re afraid of getting into trouble because they don’t know what’s going on in their own neighborhoods,” he explains.
If your neighborhood is dangerous, or if you feel unsafe because of it, try to be kind to people and neighbors.
“It’s a good way to make people feel safe, to be able to live and feel like everybody’s kind and loving and accepting of one another,” Schacher says.
But don’t let the environment around you make you feel guilty about it.
“Don’t let your negative feelings make you say, I should’ve done something different,” he adds.
If it’s a family problem, you might need to take time to talk to someone who can help, like a family counselor, says Schaffer.
“In some cases, the person might need counseling and the family might need support,” he notes.
Avoid looking for work, too If you feel your eating disorder is a sign of weakness, be aware that it could be linked to a lack of motivation, says Shaffer.
If that’s the case, avoid looking for employment or working at all, because it’s possible you could be a target of a hate crime.
You should also avoid being bullied, as Schaffer points out.
“There’s nothing you can do about bullies,” he suggests.
“When people bully, you feel bad about yourself and they make you look like a failure.
If they say something mean to you, it’s probably because they’re frustrated that you’re struggling.
They think you have a weakness.
So you have that feeling of weakness and then you feel that they’re not really interested in helping you.”
And so you have the potential for the bullying to escalate into violence, Schaffer explains.
He advises staying away from places where there’s a high incidence of violence.
“Avoid places where you see people being harassed, where you think, ‘I can’t believe someone would do that to me,’ because they might be just as angry about that as you are,” he advises.
“Instead of being a victim of a bullying incident, maybe you need to be proactive and get involved in your community and do something.”
But if you’re worried about being attacked, don, Schacher cautions.
“We’ve seen a couple of incidents in our own communities where someone was beaten up by someone who’s a neighbor,” he stresses.
“That’s not the kind of person you want hanging around your neighborhood.
You have to work on the problem.”